Children and dating
He once waited up for her when she was out on a date and asked, "How did it go? Later, the two discussed her difficulty ending the relationship.
The child urged herto say goodbye to the man she'd been seeing, and Eva is now moving toward doing so, in part because she was so impressed with her son's observations.
One of them had asked, “Who do you like more, your mom or your dad?
” I had found the question strange at the time, and now, several days later, I still could not figure out an answer. Logically, I knew they were two different people, but in some sort of child-minded way, I saw them as a monolith, a united being.
Even when they do choose, they may find their parents’ attention to be divided and not necessarily focused on them.
They begin dating again, and a child may be left wondering, “Am I not enough?
I remember meeting with a teenager who was part of a blended family.
The parents worked hard, were highly organized, and dispatched instructions and discipline to her as a matter of course.
The reasonis simple: A child's own identity is very much tied to that of his family.
When the family disintegrates, achild's sense of self is threatened, even if he maintains strong ties to both parents.